Heartache is a Wiggle
Heartache can be a clue sent by our bodies to let us know that something is important and that we should pay attention...
In 2007, I was sitting on my therapist’s couch, holding back tears, when she asked me, “What will you do if you can’t snowboard anymore?” I took a deep breath and replied, “I think I’ll die.” At just 30 years old, my body was already breaking down and I was beginning the long journey of chronic pain after a decade and a half of competitive snowboarding. The wear-and-tear had finally caught up with me after an 18-year love affair with the sport. The consensus of several orthop
I was chatting with a gay friend of mine the other day and he shared with me the frustrating challenge of having come out of the closet, only to be placed in a box. It seems that people often want him to fit within the confines of who they believe him to be, and they expect him to behave accordingly. It’s not unusual for straight folks to prefer he not discuss being gay, and along the same lines, it’s not unusual for gay men to judge him for not being more flamboyant. I reali
A few weeks ago, I was engaged in a good game of self-sabotage. I was running late for my first morning appointment when I had the stark realization that I had forgotten, not one, not two, but three important supplies for the day. The conversation inside my head went something like this: “What’s wrong with you?? Why is it that the simplest tasks are so difficult for you? You used to be so good at your job, and now you’re just careless and complacent!” Well I can tell you one
Did you ever play Hasbro’s Game of Life as a kid? This family-friendly game was designed to teach kids the values and skills of adulthood with an emphasis on “choosing your own path.” It also taught us the “rules of life” based very much on the American Dream. In the game you could choose to go to college, pick a career, buy a house, have a baby, and eventually get to retirement. In the end, the person with the most money wins. Sound familiar? Even if you never played the gam
Our journeys in life are structured much like a tree. We all begin as a seed of potential. Nourished and nursed, we germinate and sprout and emerge into being with personality and skills and quirks. When we form the trunk of the tree we’re surrounded by all the other aspects of the trunk, many like-minds gathered together forming a strong, sturdy, and supportive base. This is our learning phase, our time in school. We’re more similar with our peers than we are different. Our